The Underachiever’s Manifesto
The Guide to accomplishing little and
feeling great
By
Ray Bennett, M.D., 2006, Chronicle Books 96pp. (85 pp. effective), $9.95(Rs.539
by Homeshop18)
Underachiever?
What does this writer want me to do? Does he want me to be a loser then? If
that’s not the case, am I to be a pretender by feeling great without achieving
greatness? If I had come across this book by myself, some of these reflections
would have definitely crossed my mind. Thankfully, I have been spared of this
natural thought process this time round, since the recommendation came from one
of the serious readers of this page, Nanda. Thank you, Nanda, for the book
suggestion.
The
reader doesn’t really know what is in store for her as she reads through the
first page. The concepts used for driving home the message are overachiever and
underachiever, which actually are misnomers.
The
reader cannot give a diagonal reading and come to conclusions about this book. Overachievers
are those achievers whom the society supposedly rewards and advices the younger
ones to emulate(implying overachiever is the achiever as understood in common
parlance with thrust on achievement at all costs).The reader has to make a lot
more effort to understand who the underachiever is. No, it is not an idler, not
a failure, but one who can balance different facets of life.
Think
of balance, think of the middle path. Does that remind one of something? Yes, of
Buddhism. Of the Ashtangamarga or the Eight-fold Path. This balance has, as its
goal, not the competitive pursuit of profit maximization but of happiness
maximization. The reader gets a wind of it when brilliant careers are
contrasted with disastrous marriages (not as mutually exclusive situations but
as co-existing ones), talent and hard work with vices as smoking, drinking and
non-exercise, extreme fitness orientation with nasty bodily injuries, et al.
The
main content of the book is divided into two parts- The Basics and The Applications-
with some results and conclusions thrown in at the end. The theme is stuck to
by having some blank pages in the end (meaning that the manifesto is shorter
than the expectation of the over- achiever!).
The
futility of addiction of achievement is highlighted by pointing out to the
number of people on this Earth, most of whom would be utterly unconcerned with
the achievers’ achievement. At the same time, these indifferent souls would not
be interested in anybody’s failures either. Hence the author boots for under achievement,
and advises the reader to ‘think globally; underachieve locally’. At the local
level,(i.e.) in the family and friends circle too, people would be unhappy
about the over- achiever winning as that could indirectly mean others are
losing, even if the overachiever does not intend the same, simply because
everyone’s assessment of the goals is relative. Since success breeds
frustration and jealousy, striving is suffering.
The
author takes a close look at the role of socialization in rewarding the appropriate
learning to be fit, educated, creative and hopefully socially responsible
individuals –which indirectly causes achievement to be more than a goal, an
addiction.
The
addicted overachiever makes achievement an end in itself at a great
cost-cheating on tax, losing out on personal relationships, etc. The ‘victims’ (that
the author did not use the words, winner or loser, is worthy of note) of this
addiction have some terrible combinations of failed relationships, unhealthy
bodies or corrupted minds, but cannot be provided care since many doctors are also
afflicted with this.
Like
the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism, the author sets forth Ten Principles of Underachievement
(including one obvious one)- Life is too short, Control is an illusion, Expectations
lead to misery, Great expectations lead to great misery, Achievement creates
expectations, The law of Diminishing Returns applies everywhere, Perfect is the
enemy of good, The tallest blade of grass is the surest to be cut,
Accomplishment is in the eye of the beholder and The 4% value added principle.
The
author leaves the reader to ponder over what one would do if one were to die in
a second- squeeze in some more or enjoy it. Since many of the factors leading
to success are way beyond one’s control, the author points to the futility in
pressurizing oneself into success. The author adds that higher bars do not
always help, as they may make the trier quit in disappointment and
exasperation. Tighter scripts raise the stakes and thereby create a lower
possibility of adherence to them. The solution given by the author is that one
should treat an event ‘more like a party than a play’. Companies which set
newer records in achievement need to surpass them every year, which could make
them tempted to cut corners. Bennett does not find sense in people going on the
overdrive, like more expensive possessions- they may not really be worth their
premium, nor do they imply that enjoyment actually began with their
acquisition. His statement just sticks to the heart: ’More is not always
better, and good enough is good enough’. To justify that perfect is the enemy
of good, the author invokes some dictionary synonyms for the word perfectionist
like nit-picker, fuss pot etc., which have negative connotations. Since the
over achiever has perfection on mind, it becomes much easier for him to become
over worked.
The
author asks the question “who really cares?” to drive home the principle that
accomplishment was in the eye of the beholder. He further questions the notion
of achievement when the achievers and the non-achievers are 96% similar to the
apes and when bacteria is extremely successful without working hard for it and
goes on to add that being alive is by far one’s greatest achievement.
Similar
to the Ashtangamarga are the seven applications of the underachievers’ guide to
life- at work, in love, in diet, in workout, in financial planning, at home and
in faith.
The author applies some
scientific concepts to underscore how envy and jealousy pull down the over-
achiever to the average performance. This bit is written very humorously.
Bennett sees no sense in the over- achiever causing job insecurity to the
others or in the eagerness with which people scramble to take credit or in the
resultant stance of the over- achiever towards his co-workers. By contrast, the
underachiever does not go overboard on any issue, takes failure in her stride
and never complains about difficulties and, thereby achieves more than the
perfectionist. The author draws the conclusions that those who work twice as
hard, burn out twice as fast, and that the extra mile only leads to exhaustion.
By now, the reader tends to wonder whether the book is all about just staying
afloat, so the author gives a piece of advice to keep out of the rat race,
since one’s best (local) may still be far short of the requirement or the global
best so far. Instead, one could balance relationships better when one couldn’t
compensate for loss of family time with huge chunks of money. Moreover, as one
achieves more, one has to work harder to outsmart other over- achievers with
whom they compete; instead, one could follow the proverb, ’slow and steady wins
the race’, and live long, cultivate a hobby and invest in friendships.
While
the over- achiever’s date is akin to a high pressure interview requiring ‘strategic
thinking typically reserved for business planning’, the underachiever doesn’t
try for the perfect mate, has mutual respect for the mate, and breaks up more
amicably and without desperation. The underachiever doesn’t expect to be
perfect, and knows that demanding perfection in a partner is like living next
to a mental hospital-a short walk to insanity. The underachiever’s love doesn’t
involve the expectation of upping the ante.
On the diet front, the
underachiever sticks to the middle in the constant shift from one dietary to
another. She does indulge occasionally, but consuming in moderation comes
naturally to her. This prevents her from wasting money on hi-fi diets. She does
not expect diet as a substitute for love or friendship.
Regarding work out, the
underachiever steers clear of the couch potato, who does not work out at all or
the overachiever, who trains as though for the X games. She understands that
‘No pain, No gain’ means no brain, as the one who indulges in extreme fitness
regimen should be compensating for some short coming in some part of her life.
The underachiever chooses easy and inexpensive ways to exercise (including
catching proper sleep) and thereby saves herself the extremity of uber fitness
or non-exercise (including having a high target and giving exercise up
altogether.)
While managing her
finance, the underachiever doesn’t look for big pay offs as she doesn’t expect
to beat the market, if the best managers were unable to. She is not consumed by
greed or optimism for megabucks, so invests in Index funds and IRAs and she
saves a lot of money by leading a more austere lifestyle. Since her wants are
modest, her resources are better in the wealth ratio:
What
you have
_____________
What
you want
At home, the
underachiever does not try to live vicariously through children. She doesn’t
push herself hard, so doesn’t push the kids into insanity, or status symbols,
giving them a happy childhood by encouraging and not pressurising. While the
over- achiever doesn’t find the ‘right time’ to settle down and plans parenting
to the last detail when she eventually finds it, the underachiever takes one
day at a time, and lives life as a miracle unfolding. She cares for the child’s
future by creating family harmony –‘the family that underachieves together
stays together’.
The author identifies the
underachiever’s faith as one which doesn’t feel superior to others or that
others should see things her way, which puts one at odds with other living
persons entitled to believe in those same notions. She does not try to be
better than others, so thereby betters herself.
The author then
identifies some results of over achievement-frustration, angry colleagues,
traffic jams, etc.-and under achievement-serenity, peaceful work relations etc.
There is a helpful ‘Underachievers’ Quotient’ or UQ quiz, which has a different
and interesting evaluation criteria. The book ends with a reminder that underachievement
is not about doing nothing, but about the right effort at the right time in the
right place and not one bit more.
If the reader were an overachiever
as defined by the book, she would wonder why she spent a decent sum on such a
small book which advises her to turn down one notch. But, it is time she
realized that this book, written by a person of her ilk, could help her be
happier in life, rather than make over- achievement its proxy; this could be
one more chance God gave her from being on an overdrive and to make her realize
that excess leads one nowhere (‘Ati Sarvatra Varjayet’).With its simple
language and profound meaning, this book suggests the way out of extremities by
easy- to- follow measures, if only one chooses to!
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9 comments:
Thanks for this nice review. No one is concerned about underachievers in this world, though they form a majority. There is nothing wrong in being a average person or underachiever.
Thanks 2 Nanda for the book suggestion! You're right, Hari, but it's harder to balance life than go on the overdrive!
Thank you for focussing attention on this quite interesting topic and putting up a fine digest of the book. This book contains quite a useful message to the current generation, it affords a pleasant grounding to the enjoyment we derive from our competitive life. Reminds us that we don't need to commit suicide because we couldn't top the class this time, that we need not slink away from social life because we aren't sporting the same six pack abs as some of our friends, that we don't need to start considering corruption as a valid way of life just because our honest earning are not matching the trips and furniture accumulated by our more 'practical' colleagues, the list goes on endlessly..
This book's message is like the peaceful murmurs of a tranquil meandering placid lake compared to the Niagara like din and bustle of the uber-competitive life now-a-days. Thanks again for the very good digest and for reminding us all about this message about the simple and wonderful pleasures of living life in moderation. Have a great time.
Thanks 2 u, Nanda, for suggesting the book! And, your comment is worth more than my entire digest! Why don't you start your own review blogpage? I'll keep posting 'alsoran' comments... like a 'dishti chukka'! I'm saying it seriously!!
Hmm! I'm sorry that I couldn't resist the urge to append my unnecessary subjective comment at the end of your useful analysis and review. My only excuse is that I really liked this book's message so much. Nevertheless, I see the point that it was unnecessary :(
My apologies.......... I thought you wrote well, and the world deserved to view your writings..........I really appreciated your comment. I still insist that it is worth more than my entire digest.... thank u for ur comment & SORRY if I've hurt you!
No no. No hurt, no apologies please.. It's all in a lighter vein.. And to set the record straight, yours is the way to go for a proper review - starting with an introduction and setting the context, then some explanation, analysis and dissection, nicely rounding off with a recommendation, backing it all up with some objective reasons. I, as a mere commentator, have the luxury to just dish out some high sounding subjective ideas without explaining the rationale or anything. So don't take away anything from your good review. Looking forward to much more content from your pen..
Thanks, Nanda! Thank u for the encouragement as well..... by next month's end, I'll be ready with a lot of reviews, but I am not too sure when I can digitise them put them up here........I hope it'll be soon enough!!
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